7 Stages of Healing a Broken Heart and Overcoming Communication Gap

7 Stages of Healing a Broken Heart and Overcoming Communication Gap

Written by Deepak Bhagat, In Health, Published On
February 25, 2021
Last modified on December 21st, 2021

Valentine’s week has just passed, and, sadly, we have to discuss heartbreaks. However, how hard it may sound, heartbreaks are disturbing and is something to discuss. On the other hand, many people find it hard to open up and end up with trauma. Looking at the gravity of the matter, here are seven commandments from the leading doctors about healing broken hearts and how to overcome the communication gap in such scenarios.

The 7 Steps To Overcome Heartbreak

The journey of moving on from a fragmented relationship is not as easy as it sounds. The varying degree of emotions and the beloved one’s memories stir feelings, thus making it an impossible task for some point in time. On the other hand, embracing reality and the act of self-love appears as a noble solution, thus paving ways to a new life.

However, experts suggest these seven steps for psychotherapy, whether online psychotherapy or otherwise. 

  • Exploration
  • Expression
  • Comfort
  • Compensation
  • Perspective
  • Channeling
  • Forgiveness

While these steps may sound simple, vague, or silly, these steps have indeed worked a miracle for many. On the other hand, there are no easy, quick-fix solutions as these methods take time and vary with every other individual.

So without wasting much time, let’s dive deep into the details.

#1: Exploration

The very natural step, to begin with, is exploration. In this stage, one needs to accept the unfortunate event that occurred and the mistakes that happened all along the way. Most often than ever, people get involved. Most people end up doing more harm than good. They talk ill to themselves and start finding out flaws in them. However, the point is to accept reality despite the cause and look to the positive aspects of ending up in a toxic relationship.

#2: Expression

Once you have analyzed the cause of pain and other critical aspects of the relationships, it is time for expression. Most people found it very easy to move in this space and could not be ignored at all costs. The motive of this online psychotherapy is to embrace the emotions without getting affected by much of them. Allow the pain to seep into and watch as they go. It is okay to let go through the emotions in this step by crying or any other physical activity for a holistic session.

#3: Comfort

At this point, while you are expressing your inner emotions, you need someone to hear out your pain. This could be anyone. Your childhood friend, or parents, or a therapist can resonate with your emotions and hence should not be ignored at all costs.

At this point, your circle should also understand your inner emotions and try to comfort you to ease the pain. On the other hand, you should consider focusing on the toxic aspect of the relationship and why it was time to call an end to it.

#4: Compensation

Now that you have suffered a lot, it is time to allow yourself to ease off. Keep in mind, you have come along a long way from the breakup, and this is your time to yourself and show some respect to yourself. It is time to party!!!

Here are a few things that you could do to make up for the lost time and feel good.

  • Listen to some nice songs that uplift your emotions.
  • Take a long shower with scented candles and essential oils
  • Go for a walk with your pet or play with your dog regularly
  • Go for a trip with friends

.. and so on.

There would be millions of such activities. But all you need is to focus on activities that cheer you up and hence could not be ignored at all costs.

#5: Perspective

Now that you have accepted the event, it is time to acknowledge what matters and what does not. It is okay to say that it was his or her mistake, and now you have moved on. On the other hand, it is time to accept your mistakes and not indulge in self-pity or self-doubt. Instead, acknowledge them and move ahead in your life.

#6: Channeling

Now that you have all the emotions in place, it is imperative to channel your inner emotions. No wonder speaking out emotions or pouring out your thoughts and views on someone’s plate could do wonders, it is time to do something constructive.

Here are some ways to do so.

  • Implement new relational boundaries.
  • Serving the community or talking about your experiences in the new online psychotherapy session that you have joined.
  • Write a blog about your experiences.

These activities will help you in the long run.

#7: Forgiveness

Now that you have reached the final stage of the therapy let me remind you that it is all about forgiving now. Forgive your ex-partner along with yourself for any sort of emotions you have harbored during the period. Psychological therapy is a long affair and hence could not be ignored at all costs. The act of forgiveness does not need any specific act, while it does not involve showing to others.

All one needs is a forgiving heart and mind. Accept the truth and let him or her go.

Concluding Remarks

While there is a ton of advice available on the internet, it is imperative to follow these principles that are structured and full of value. Rest it all depends upon how things work out in the end.

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